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“The things we live for”
Dostoyevsky
Our values, the basic principles that guide how we want to live our lives. In fact, these define the kind of person we want to be, while also providing us with standards for evaluating our actions.
From another perspective, we can call it a general belief about what is desired, which generally arises from our sense of self, the general psychological needs of the person, and the social norms of society.
Values are considered as aspects of life; taking responsibility, authority, autonomy, passion, creativity, forgiveness, giving, health, independence, being loving, being open, being fair, being traditional are just some of these aspects.
Values are not morals or principles..
Values are not moral rules. Values are not about moral character or ethical behavior, but behaving in a highly ethical manner can be a value.
Value-Oriented Living, is when a person's values successfully guide their life and behavior. This also shows us that the person lives with a very high level of consistency. People who live in this way ask themselves similar questions in every important decision;
- Why am I doing this?
- Does what I do really align with my values?
- If so, which of my values does it emphasize more?
- If I am doing something that is different from my values, am I aware of it? Why am I doing it?
As we said at the beginning, values provide us with a standard to evaluate our actions and unfortunately, the moment you consciously or unconsciously move away from your values, you start to suffer and have difficulty in life, you lose your consistency.
The first way to fully transition to a value-focused life is to first clarify your values. Unfortunately, in my meetings with most of my clients, I see that they cannot clearly state their values. The biggest confusion is when values and goals get mixed up.
Goals are not values.
Goals can be achieved within a certain period of time, but values express a continuing life direction to us. While healthy living is a value, doing sports twice a week is only a goal, goals can be measured and achieved, and the value of healthy living is a direction that will last a lifetime for us, not a goal that will be achieved once and finished.
My suggestion to clients to clarify their values is to first evaluate themselves in their daily lives, even in simple decisions made during the day there is always a value. Then I ask them which values they neglect and which values they absolutely do not compromise on. Determining the priorities of our values is not very important if there is no conflict between them and these priorities will change in the future.
In our coaching work, we first try to clarify values using different tools, then we focus on how we can develop these values and how we can close the gap between our values and our actions with some other tools. We also look at the environment in which values are formed, again in line with the requests of the clients. We talk about questions such as where these values come from, who were their role models in the past, how did their family's values and beliefs affect them. It often turns out that some of our values emerged from our childhood conditioning and that we still unconsciously embrace them. We also use the knowledge we have gained from meditation and human design to be able to notice these conditionings and remove them from our lives.
Once we clarify our values, their importance in life and where we will invest begin to emerge; in fact, our road map becomes clear.
Values are the first step to living a meaningful, consistent and full life. At the same time, Self-Awareness is the starting point of our ability to see ourselves clearly and distinctly. If you feel you need help in these matters, you can join our coaching sessions or you can learn more and improve yourself with the Self-Awareness workshop in our Workshops. We are waiting for you on our website for more.
Stay healthy, loving and aware.